[It takes Prompto a while to compose his answer. Maybe that's why this conversation is taking place over text.]
there's someone i'm worried about, i guess. i found out something...really, really bad happened to them. but they act like it's no big deal, and i don't really know how to tell them it's okay if it is a big deal. or that it's okay if it's NOT okay, you know? like........ it's not normal, they don't have to act like it's this normal thing that happens to everybody, they can be upset! i don't i probably don't know them well enough to say that stuff, though. i haven't been through anything like what they've been through, and i don't want to......overstep or something.
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they're younger than us. like iris's age. that can't be healthy for a kid, right? just........thinking that's normal?
That IS quite the conundrum. And difficult to navigate, from an advisory standpoint, so bear with me while I ask a few clarifying questions.
Your concern is that they're bottling up their true feelings, correct? Or perhaps that by acting as though everything is fine, they're not addressing the situation in a healthy way. Something like that?
yeah. i think more the second thing than the first. like there isn't even anything to bottle up yet, they can't get to that point because they're not......really grasping that it's not okay that that happened to them? does that make sense?
Is there perhaps some way you can...hmm. Lead by example, in a sense? Share with them something analogous or at least similar, and model a more appropriate reaction to it?
uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.......i probably missed my chance for that, crap. i mean it wasn't really SIMILAR but i guess it was similarly a bad thing? but i just kinda said i didn't want to talk about it. i mean about the thing that happened to me. you know. the mt thing. they saw that during the stuff last week.
It's not really about who can do it best, though, is it? It's about who's capable, full stop.
You clearly care about this person. You could try using that as your icebreaker; you'd be surprised how much seemingly impenetrable people sometimes value hearing simple expressions of concern like that.
The point being, bizarre aside...well, aside, that you're perfectly qualified to bring your concerns up with this person. There's no reason to think that you shouldn't be.
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there's someone i'm worried about, i guess. i found out something...really, really bad happened to them. but they act like it's no big deal, and i don't really know how to tell them it's okay if it is a big deal. or that it's okay if it's NOT okay, you know? like........
it's not normal, they don't have to act like it's this normal thing that happens to everybody, they can be upset!
i don't
i probably don't know them well enough to say that stuff, though. i haven't been through anything like what they've been through, and i don't want to......overstep or something.
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they're younger than us. like iris's age. that can't be healthy for a kid, right? just........thinking that's normal?
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Your concern is that they're bottling up their true feelings, correct? Or perhaps that by acting as though everything is fine, they're not addressing the situation in a healthy way. Something like that?
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Is there perhaps some way you can...hmm. Lead by example, in a sense? Share with them something analogous or at least similar, and model a more appropriate reaction to it?
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[Now all of a sudden he's REAL quiet for a time.]
Are you close with this person? Close enough that it wouldn't be untoward to express concern for them?
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You clearly care about this person. You could try using that as your icebreaker; you'd be surprised how much seemingly impenetrable people sometimes value hearing simple expressions of concern like that.
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[AS THOUGH ANYONE KNOWS THE PURPOSE OF DABBING]
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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...... γΎοΌοΌΏγοΌΏ γ
i'm sure you'll figure it out. you're the smartest guy i know, igs.
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